Where’s Sincerity In This Digital Age?
In this fast-paced world we live in, everything is instant. Everything can be done with a tap and a slide of a finger — from staying connected with a loved one at the other side of the world to simply catching up with a friend to finding a potential date.
In this digital age, liking someone means going to their social media pages, scrolling through their profile and hitting the occasional like button. Maybe dropping a quick DM to let them know you’re interested. No hassle at all, right? Asking someone out has become impersonal and somehow insincere.
But how beautiful can dating be if we get out of our virtual bubbles and start establishing real, sincere relationships beyond the screens of our phones? If we really like someone, pursuing them personally and with intention is the way to go. Here are some of the ways we can do that:
Pay attention to details
No, not what they posted on their page last night or how many followers they have. Details like who they really are, the way they speak, the way they carry themselves, the way their mind works and the things they like to talk about. By paying attention to these details, you’ll be able to learn a whole lot more about the person you intend to pursue. And, at the same time, it’s an amazing way to make them feel that you are listening and you are interested. This will create a sincere, intimate atmosphere you will both enjoy.
Drop them a sweet card, just because.
Instead of lurking around their social media pages and contemplating on whether you’ll send them a message or not… Why not give them a sincere and well-thought card? A friendly handwritten note that is light and fun. Level up your DMs into a more memorable move, just because.
While waiting, build the relationship
As you wait for your efforts to pay off, continue communicating with them. Don’t make them feel you left them hanging. It is important to build the flourishing friendship, and get to know them deeper. Make sure the time spent waiting is spent well.
Once they get back to you, it means you’re in for another round. This time, you can give even more effort and be more thoughtful on how you want it to go. Review all the things you’ve talked about the first time, a date may become sweeter the second time around. Think of the things they mentioned that they enjoy doing – if they are a basketball fan, invite them to a game; or invite them to a gastronomic food crawl. Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that would tickle their fancy.
Sincerity in this digital age is not impossible. It just requires more effort and more time — but it’s definitely worth it.
Remember, it’s impressive to be intentional, personal and sincere today. No matter how many social media and internet dating is, the old-fashioned way of courting and dating someone is still the best way to get to know a person you plan to establish a deep relationship with.
Because, if you really like someone, you’ll make an effort to pursue them the right way.